I'm having my 4th Cocktail Party on July 21st, as you probably all know. You guys ask and ask and ask what to wear and how to woo the ladies and how to behave at the Party, so I'll give you my 2 1/2 cents! Of course, you can google this and get probably 2 million sites to check out, but these are mine, I promise.
1) Have a good attitude. If you think you'll have fun, you will. The body listens to the mind. Use those face muscles and smile. People are drawn to happy people.
2) Be brave. I know it's scary going somewhere new or if you don't know anyone. It's really just those seconds or maybe one minute from the car to the lounge that's scary, but then it will be fun! It's really likely that most, or all, of the people in the room are feeling the same feelings you are. Sit home or risk having fun and meeting some really cool people? It's your choice.
3) Be friendly. Say "Hi!" to as many people as possible. People love to be approached - we all want to be wanted. And people like to talk about themselves, so ask questions and then really listen and ask more questions about what the person said. There's plenty of time to share about yourself later. Pretend it's your mission to make people comfortable and you'll forget all about your own nervousness!
4) Approach the people standing or sitting by themselves. Ah, it's hard to come alone, especially for the ladies and already you know that the person is brave, so say hi (see #3) and ask them to dance. Make eye contact and say something nice to the person (like that's a pretty dress or you have lovely eyes or a great smile) and do your best to make that person glad that they met you.
5) Stop looking and act. I know there will be lots of very attractive people at the party and they came to meet people like you, so get moving! Instead of staring and wishing and hoping, just put one foot in front of the other and get over there and say "Hi". You don't want to go home mad at yourself for not approaching that lovely women in the red dress, do you? It's worth the risk, I promise. You will NOT stop breathing if a woman says no and the whole room ISN'T watching this happen! Just do it!
6) Ladies, unless you've seen the guy's picture on America's Most Wanted, say a big YES when he asks you to dance. Leave you scripts at home, like you want him to talk to you and buy you a drink or whatever before he asks you to dance, and just enjoy what he does offer. It's tough for guys to approach pretty women so give them points for courage and dance with them. And, I beg you, don't sit with all your lady friends and talk to each other all night. The guys will not, I repeat WILL NOT, approach that group of ladies, no matter how gorgeous you look that night or how brave they are. You came to meet some new guys, so let them in. Get up, move around, talk to someone you don't know. And yes, I've heard the speakers and read the books that say that women should wait for the guy to approach, but what would it hurt to approach them? I'm not saying we should ask them out on a date, but just a "hi" and "you look nice" might give them the courage to be the manly man that they want to be.
7) Look good. There's something that happens to us when we look our best. We just get more confident and happy and it shows. Plus, as a woman, I appreciate a guy who takes the time to dress nicely. Doesn't have to be fancy, just a nice well-pressed shirt and your good pants and maybe throw on a sports coat for extra points. And shiny shoes! I love cool shoes on a guy! And, of course, smell good. Taking a shower is a given, but put on some good cologne or after-shave. You guys have no idea how much we like that.
These events are free. I have no financial gain or receive anything from doing all this work, except the huge pleasure of seeing you all having a good time and meeting each other. I just put on these events for you to have FUN! Do you hear that? FUN! (If you don't have details of the party or the dinner beforehand, email me at wowthatellen@yahoo.com) It's up to you, you fabulous ladies and hunky guys - let's make it fun for everyone!
p.s. If you have any other ways to have fun at a party like this or have comments on my list, hit the word "comment" below or email me and speak your mind!
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