I want to write, but I'm not so sure what I'm supposed to say. Maybe just that sometimes life is good. I am a believer that life is tough and that we sometimes have to suffer through difficulties, but lately life is good for me. I'm getting email after email from the Partygoers who attended last Sunday's Concert in the Park, telling me how much they enjoyed the event and thanking me for making this all happen. I'm delighted, just delighted to know that I may have brought a few minutes of sunshine to single people in my age group. I can't believe that when we were little kids thinking about our futures, we'd imagine ourselves in our fifties being single and alone. I know that many of us thought we'd marry the man or woman of our dreams, live in a house in the suburbs, have two beautiful kids, and live happily-ever-after. But think about it, if I was still living that fairy tale, the current events of my life would never have happened. Even if I had been in a long term romantic relationship in the past few years, I likely would not have created the women's group and these singles parties. Think of the fun and joy I would have missed!
I don't think many of you know this, but I have a tendency to be a recluse, you know just come home and crawl under the covers and watch a movie or read a good book and never leave the house. One of the new ladies to my group admitted to me that it is really hard for her to join our events and she has to push herself to go. I told her that I imagine that for most of us, this is really tough stuff, that it sure would be easier to stay in my jammies under the covers and not go out. But a really nice guy reminded me at the Concert that we really do need people and, every time I do go out and have a good time, I am reminded just how life-giving it is to socialize, to meet like-minded people, to even just dance like a crazy person to some cool music.
Something I've learned recently has really helped me with all of this. It's so simple. I think too much. I'll get a feeling or emotion and I think about it and dwell on it and sometimes it just creates havoc in my life, causing me fear or anxiety and makes me want to retreat. I have a wonderful new friend who is out on a date tonight (with a really sweet guy she met at the Concert!!!) and she called me in the middle of it, wondering why she was feeling fear and trepidation. I told her to stop thinking, to bring herself back to the moment, to be an observer of what was happening, and not to miss one minute of this neat guy telling her that she was beautiful and wonderful. And she is beautiful and wonderful and a true blessing in my life, but when she thinks of what's wrong with her instead of what's so good, she misses opportunities for joy. Instead of realizing our true worth, we think and think and our body believes what we're thinking is true and then we're a wreck. We think and we miss what's lovely in our lives. And what we think isn't necessarily true, especially for us ladies who tend to miss the positive because we are so busy being negative about ourselves, like we're fat or we're not good enough or we're too old or we'll never meet someone we like, all the time the guy we're with thinks we're a Goddess! Geez, it's like having a massage and thinking about something else and missing the whole thing. Like it never happened because we weren't there. Thinking too much is like that, being somewhere else while good things are happening. We miss so much when we're listening to our heads. Look at that lady in the picture, dancing in a park, not embarassed, just doing what she feels like in that very moment of time. That's what I'm talking about.
So maybe that's the message I want to share today, to live in the moment and stop believing what your head is thinking. Dwell on what's fabulous about you. Maybe we're so busy making lists of the qualities we want in a mate, we neglect to take stock of the amazing qualities we ourselves possess. And maybe if we'd realize what beautiful and lovely and smart and valuable people we are, we'd attract similar people and find what we've been searching for all along. Maybe if we'd really, truly love ourselves, love our good qualities and our flaws, we'd allow someone equally fabulous
to love us, too. Ah, that sounds so good. Let's do it.
I don't think many of you know this, but I have a tendency to be a recluse, you know just come home and crawl under the covers and watch a movie or read a good book and never leave the house. One of the new ladies to my group admitted to me that it is really hard for her to join our events and she has to push herself to go. I told her that I imagine that for most of us, this is really tough stuff, that it sure would be easier to stay in my jammies under the covers and not go out. But a really nice guy reminded me at the Concert that we really do need people and, every time I do go out and have a good time, I am reminded just how life-giving it is to socialize, to meet like-minded people, to even just dance like a crazy person to some cool music.
Something I've learned recently has really helped me with all of this. It's so simple. I think too much. I'll get a feeling or emotion and I think about it and dwell on it and sometimes it just creates havoc in my life, causing me fear or anxiety and makes me want to retreat. I have a wonderful new friend who is out on a date tonight (with a really sweet guy she met at the Concert!!!) and she called me in the middle of it, wondering why she was feeling fear and trepidation. I told her to stop thinking, to bring herself back to the moment, to be an observer of what was happening, and not to miss one minute of this neat guy telling her that she was beautiful and wonderful. And she is beautiful and wonderful and a true blessing in my life, but when she thinks of what's wrong with her instead of what's so good, she misses opportunities for joy. Instead of realizing our true worth, we think and think and our body believes what we're thinking is true and then we're a wreck. We think and we miss what's lovely in our lives. And what we think isn't necessarily true, especially for us ladies who tend to miss the positive because we are so busy being negative about ourselves, like we're fat or we're not good enough or we're too old or we'll never meet someone we like, all the time the guy we're with thinks we're a Goddess! Geez, it's like having a massage and thinking about something else and missing the whole thing. Like it never happened because we weren't there. Thinking too much is like that, being somewhere else while good things are happening. We miss so much when we're listening to our heads. Look at that lady in the picture, dancing in a park, not embarassed, just doing what she feels like in that very moment of time. That's what I'm talking about.
So maybe that's the message I want to share today, to live in the moment and stop believing what your head is thinking. Dwell on what's fabulous about you. Maybe we're so busy making lists of the qualities we want in a mate, we neglect to take stock of the amazing qualities we ourselves possess. And maybe if we'd realize what beautiful and lovely and smart and valuable people we are, we'd attract similar people and find what we've been searching for all along. Maybe if we'd really, truly love ourselves, love our good qualities and our flaws, we'd allow someone equally fabulous
to love us, too. Ah, that sounds so good. Let's do it.
1 comment:
the socializing, positive thinking, affirmations, yes!!...hunter
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